Why I'm Excited For My Marriage Not My Wedding Day

People say it's every little girl's dream to grow up and have a big fairy tale wedding. And I would be lying if I didn't say I have created Pinterest boards dedicated to hopeful weddings when I was super single. And even though weddings are an amazing time for people to come together to celebrate love. But when it comes down to my wedding and my wedding day I am dreading it. For me, I'm more excited about my marriage than the actual wedding day.

Can’t I Just Go To Town Hall Or Elope?

I have been engaged to my partner for 2 and 1/2 years now. And not once have we actually sat down to start planning our wedding or picking out a date for it. For me, I now think that my dream is no wedding at all and by that, I mean just going down to town hall and filling out the paperwork that we need to become legally married in the eyes of the law.

Even my mom is okay if I end up eloping as long as I have pictures taken so I can show her the day. My partner, on the other hand, is not one for just going down to town hall to fill out paperwork when it comes to our wedding. He wants a wedding, a celebration a ceremony, and a party just like everyone wants to have.

Let’s Skip The Wedding All Together

I rather skip the wedding and just go straight into the marriage. Even though my partner and I have been living together for 2 1/2 years and our finances are combined there's still that silly little paper that we both need to fill out in order for us to be legally married in the eyes of the law. For me, I think this is absolutely ridiculous that I need a piece of paper to tell me that I am going into love my partner and spend the rest of my life with one person.

I already know that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with Luke. He’s my best friend. We spend all day together and we've created a family with all of our animals. It's with him, and only him, that I would put all my life savings into a house I never saw to move halfway across the US to try a new adventure together.

No Wedding Makes All Of Its Guest Happy

That's why I feel like just going down to town hall would be enough for me. I don't need a big expensive elaborate wedding that would cost thousands of dollars. I don't want to deal with the drama about what family members are invited or not to the wedding and reception. Nor do I really want to travel back to New England to have the wedding, even though I know if and when we actually do get married it will be in New England so our family and friends can come to it

I just wanna spend the rest of my life with Luke. And I know people get very excited about their wedding day, wedding dress, and how you look and how it will be such a magical day of your life. But in reality, wedding days can be very stressful for the bride and groom.

When it comes to a wedding and the reception people always have their own opinion about it. Even if you think everything was perfect there will be guests at your wedding and reception who didn't like your dress, the colors you picked out, the flower arrangement you held, the music, food, really anything. So I spend so much time or money on a wedding that some gas will eventually complain about.

I want everything that comes after the wedding day. I want a lifelong together with my partner. I want to be able to buy a forever house with him. And be able to have children and raise them in a house filled with love and create memories together as our family grows.

That is why I say I'd rather skip the wedding ceremony and reception completely since I'd rather just jump straight into the marriage.